When we were kids, we all wanted to be a great spouse, a great big brother/sister, a great lover, etc. We all wanted to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer, pastor, or a high government official. If so, how’s that working out for you? Hopefully, it’s going great and you are living the life of your dreams.
But for the rest of you who are not, here are 10 signs that you might be wasting your life… but you don’t want to admit it:
1). You find yourself complaining a lot.
I know people who are constantly overwhelmed with life. They complain about their job, their salary, their neighbors or the attitude of their teachers, pastors, or spouse.
If you do, then you are doing nothing but exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what you appreciate about your life and your job, not what you don’t like.
2). You don’t feed your mind.
If you’re not continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant – just like a still pond that doesn’t move and soon starts stinking.
That’s what your mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new things. Challenge your mind with a new skill such as bead making, piano lessons, corel draw designing, autocad designing, a new programming language. Challenge your mind with a new novel or a book on marriage, relationship, money, community service, or leadership.
3). You have a lot of negative self-talk.
Closely monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches your thoughts.
The first day I went to Abuja to write an interview for Housemanship in a certain Federal institution, I saw a crowd of about 400 doctors who came for a space of only about 24 House Officers. I told myself that it was game over…and it was. At the end, I was not even shortlisted for the oral interview. I went home from the written interview.
You will always experience physically your most dominant thoughts. If you are always talking down yourself, you are wasting your life without knowing.
4). You feel uninspired always.
There has to be something that you enjoy doing, so you need to rediscover what excites you, and then do more of it. If you sit down all day, uninspired at everything, your life is obviously ebbing away.
Some have passion for writing, women rights activism, unionism, philantrophy, etc. Discover yours and start living.
5). You always think someone owes you a living.
It is a global problem. Most of us think someone is responsible for our success in life. I used to think that way too; that somehow, my success was in the hands of someone; that someone somewhere was owing me a living.
Its not unusual to find people who blame their parents for not being a little more wealthy, for not sending them to school, for not sending them to UK, for not opening a beauty salon for them, etc.
Wake up! Nobody owes you a dime.
6). You don’t plan for your future.
If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up somewhere good. You can’t do that and expect to have a great life later. You have to make a step-by-step guide to get where you want to get to in life. You’ll never hit a target you can’t see.
7). You spend too much time with people who don’t contribute to your growth.
I like to call them Energy Vampires. They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead, go find growth-oriented people to be around with.
Love is a command, but association is a choice. As you go on in life, never be afraid to say goodbye to people who no longer make you happy, encourage you, support you, nor defend you when you’re unavailable to defend yourself in the court of people’s opinion.
Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. I have made mistakes and learnt from them, I have fought friends, and embraced enemies… all for the sake ofFOCUS
8.). You’re addicted to your phone.
Sure, cell phones are fantastic. I literarily live inside my Samsung Galaxy Tab 4 10.1, but that’s because I read a lot of my ebooks there, surf the news, and blog.
While that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone if you are doing things that do not increase your value. You can’t watch porn all night and claim your life is not being wasted. You cant play all the android games in your cellphone from morning till night and claim your life is not being wasted. Even worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected if you stay all night playing games and watching porn instead of staying awake to hear your spouse out.
9). You’re not taking care of your body.
Many people wish to be slim, fit and trim, but it is only a wish. They do things that contradict their wishes by over eating, excessive drinking of alcohol, etc.
Not only is sleep essential to your health, so is food and exercise.
I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss. It affects your mental attitude and overall well-being.
So take a look at your diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will greatly improve your life.
10). You don’t like to leave your comfort zone.
I know how easy it is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant in Portharcourt, I always order the same thing.
Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but because I like the food I normally order.
But that’s not the kind of comfort zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about not taking a risk that will improve your life.
Life should be exciting! So if you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to get you to a better place.
So if any of these 10 points sounded like you, don’t despair. We can make changes. None of us can be so flawless. After all, I wrote these things above yet I’m not flawless. I’m a decent gentleman, not a perfect one.
But if any of the points above addressed you, and you toss this aside after reading; as most people will likely do, then you’re wasting your life but you won’t admit it.