According to experts, the months before you get married should be more about discovering your true desires and setting yourself up for success rather than picking out a color palette.
Here are eight things you must do before the big day:
- Figure out what you want from life: A motivational speaker and author of Choosing Me Before We, warns that it can be difficult to choose the right mate before we’ve had the chance to clearly define what we want our own lives to look like. “The truth is,” she says, “it’s easy to fall in love but much harder to find a partner who supports you. When you know what you want from your own life, however, you are much more likely to choose someone you love and who is a good match to help you create that life.”
- Get on the same page with your significant other: Everything from how to handle your finances to whether you want children, and what kind of lifestyle you crave — now is the time to talk it out and get on the same page with your significant other, says a relationship coach and creator of Love for Successful Women. “These areas are fundamental,” she says, “and when both people are on the same page, this increases the probability for a long and happy marriage. When couples assume things will work out without having these conversations, life and marriage become more challenging.”
- Create a strong social circle: You may not realize it, but your female friends have a strong impact on the success of your relationship. If you go into a marriage without a strong, supportive tribe of sisters, you’ll set yourself up to over-rely on your spouse and look to him or her to be everything to you. No one person can be everything. A strong circle of friends will keep you connected to yourself, out of isolation, and out of the potential to lose yourself in your marriage.
- Set yourself up for financial success: It’s not uncommon to come into a marriage carrying debt. But, the more debt you can eliminate and the more money you can save before your marriage, the better off you will be. Why? it will reduce the potential for financial fights later on.
- Ask yourself why you want to be married: And be honest with your answer, “There is a lot of social pressure to get married,” and if you are getting married to achieve the next milestone or to lock in the guy or girl, it’s a reason that is full of future misery. You have to know it is what you really want. Seek expert advice or professional advice.
Photo courtesy: ashleysbrideguide.com