Straight from the Heart……….Kindly Advice
I met my boyfriend 2yrs ago. I was 20years then while he was 30yrs. He proposed to me last month. My introduction is 27th of this month. Yesterday, I visited my boyfriend, he asked me to eat his food and I refused to eat because we had an argument and I was still angry. (My boyfriend tells his friends everything that happens between us. Whenever I tell him it isn’t right, he defends himself by saying he wants to learn from married men. Few days ago one of his married friend called me and told me that he doesn’t want to hear anything bad about me again. He advised me for over 30mins. It was really embarrassing especially because the advice came from a married man that sleeps with different women. I confronted my boyfriend and he didn’t see a single thing wrong in what happened. I was still angry because he didn’t want us to talk about it. He never listens to me because I am far younger in age and education wise. He lies to me a lot and sees nothing wrong with it. Yesterday was the worst day of my life, my boyfriend beat me up because I didn’t eat. He hit my head on the ground, beat the hell out of me, threatened me with a knife. I tried to fight back but he was stronger. It came as a shock, my arm is swollen, bruises all over my body. I can’t believe that a PhD holder did this to me. I thought I would die. He kept on hitting me with belt, blowing me with his fist, like an animal. As if he wanted me to die, but I refused to die. Even when I begged for mercy, he hit me harder. He kept on saying that he would be beating me now because I am very stubborn. I never knew how bad to abuse a woman is, until yesterday. The pain from someone that loves you. I had a close shave with death yesterday. I left his house in pains yesterday trying to hide my bruised face and body from people.
He called to beg today. He still wants the marriage to hold.
Please I need your advice. Should I tell my family and friends what happened and tell them we are no longer getting married? Or should I just go on with the marriage hoping he won’t repeat what he did again? Whatever happens(marriage or not) I will deal with him, I don’t think I can ever forgive him.
Thanks for your candid opinions.