I really need your advice on this issue; I have a fiancé, Joe. I love Joe deeply, and I know he loves me too. He is a great guy, and has qualities that I admire in a guy. Joe basically does nothing without consulting me; I have most, if not all of his passwords. That’s how much he trusts me. I am the kind of lady that loves attention. I like my boyfriend being all over me, calling me at every little opportunity, telling me everything that happened during his day, boring or not. I want my man to be my best friend, my best friend that can’t go an hour without itching to talk to me about everything. Such kind of attention and caring attitude makes me happy, and without it, I become frustrated. I am an independent person; things like gifts, money, lunch, etc. don’t move me. I could care less for all that. The only thing I desire from my man is love and attention. The problem is, Joe is not that kind of a man. He hardly says “I love you”, he can go two days without talking to me, and he doesn’t have a single romantic bone in him. He is a workaholic and pays too much attention to his job. I feel like he puts his job and family before me. He says understanding is everything. Joe doesn’t speak my language of love. As much as I love Joe, I fear that if I marry him, I will not be happy, in spite of his good attributes. I have talked this over with him severally, he understands and promised to make effort. He says he is doing his very best at loving me but I think this is just who he is, however I am not okay with it. I called off the relationship severally but he never agrees to let me go, he has never given up on me even when I give up, he will always plead with me to be patient with him. I am confused. I have never loved anyone this much, I usually just let go when I need to and move on. In this case, a part of my heart is still with him. Am I asking for too much? Am I living in a fantasy world?
Are all of his good attributes worth giving up my happiness for life? And yes, for life, because he may not change.