I’m 24 years old and I’ve been dating this guy for two years now. Everything was going on fine for us till I noticed he had a girlfriend and they live together. I was furious when I found out he had a girlfriend so, I confronted him and told him it was over between us. He begged me and told me that he doesn’t love her anymore, that he’s in love with me, that he didn’t tell me about his other relationship because he was scared he would lose me and now he’s ready to look for a new place, which he did. So, I forgave him. But, after some time, I noticed they were still communicating, I was very pissed and I told him I was going to end our relationship if he doesn’t stop communicating with her. He promised he was going to and also made me believe he did. I forgave him again but the trust wasn’t there anymore so, I started spying on him and found out that he changed her name on his contact so, I would think they’ve stopped talking. I confronted him again but, he says they’re just friends, that everyone knows we are dating, his family, friends and his Ex. I know she knows about us, I read some of the messages she sent to him saying; “I know you don’t love me, but, I love you. why are you breaking my heart, is it a crime to love? what did I do to deserve this?” and he makes her feel like he’s not having an affair with anyone and she shouldn’t believe what people tell her. But, I know she knows about us because she once told him that when my boyfriend finishes playing with me, that he’d go back to her that he’s a guy and guys flirt so, he’s just having a fling with me. I know he’s not having a fling with me because he has proposed to me but, I’m not comfortable with the fact that he still sees his “Ex” and they still talk almost everyday even at midnight( I know because I check his phone).
What do you think he’s trying to do? Do you think I should confront her again? Do you think I should call her and tell her to stay away? Do you think I should leave him? I really do love him but, I’m tired of nagging, i’m tired of feeling bad. I’m already emotionally wrecked.
My parents don’t know him but, they’ve heard about who I’m dating. They don’t want to know him because they think he’s not good enough but, his family loves and has accepted me. His mum adores me. She even asked him to delete any female number that isn’t hers, his sister’s or mine. Lol! She kinda exaggerated but, that was sweet of her.
What do you suggest I do? Cos, I’ve been very patient!