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I Love Him But Scared To Marry Him….

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I am a 36 years old and I fell in love with a 38-year-old man. We met two and half years ago when I visited Nigeria and before I left back to my base abroad, I didn’t have the time to visit his home. We have been talking and most times he does the visiting. But trouble started when I started planning to visit him. I later found out that he was married with a daughter. When I confronted him, he begged that he didn’t want to loose me and that he was going through divorce at the court. I surprised him sometimes last year and visited but he wouldn’t take me home, he kept me at a friend’s house.

I love this guy so much and he adores me and treats me right, now he wants to marry me but I have never visited his home before.

Please I need advice, should I go on or quit?

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tinuke November 4, 2014 - 8:47 pm

Hi sweetheart,

I am begging you to just leave this guy. It is hard but you need to leave him A guy that can’t flaunt you is a no go area. Yes, you might be scared because age is not on your side but one thing you must know is that you should never compromise your happiness. Sorry, to say but most of our Naija guys see girls in the diaspora as jackpot. He might just be treating you right to get you in his nest. He is married so he knows the act of manipulating a woman!!

girl November 4, 2014 - 10:27 pm

Look for someone else. He is not going for any divorse. He is taking the opportunity that you live abroad and maybe you are desperate to get married.

maris November 4, 2014 - 11:00 pm

U said the man has a wife,then why do you want to marry him?

mee November 5, 2014 - 7:38 am

Are you seriously asking this question? At 36, a man cannot take you to his house and you are still seeing him? If he is truly going through a divorce he will not mind being seen with you.

bisola November 5, 2014 - 8:34 am

CommentDon’t marry him you will definitely regret it…..pray to God to send you your own man who would be perfect for you, trust me you don’t want to date a man with such baggages….besides ask yourself why is he going through a divorce

Bee November 6, 2014 - 2:45 pm

Yoh! This is so deep. Men like doing this to women. Leave him. It’s easier said than done though. It might take you a very loooong time to get over him, it will be worth it in the end. Just try and keep yourself very very busy so that detaching will be easier because if you are idle, you will think about him day and night. I am also in a similar situation but for me, he ain’t married. He is in a complicated “papers” issue with some lady. Those of you who have travelled before, will relate…*sigh*. Why can’t we all get perfect situations? Only God knows…

Buij May 28, 2015 - 9:03 pm

He is married! And if he was going through a divorec like he said i don’t see why not come clean to you about that. Who knows what else he is lying about. I am not juging you but what do you really know about him? Why he is divorcing and so soon ready to jump back in, which most peolle don’t do. Besides HE IS STILL MARRIED. Since the divorce is not final. He is cheating with you. You might be a rebound girl that he used during time of pain then when he is healed and over it, what will happen to you. Please be smart about this and do not let desperation make you settle for mediocrity. May God see you through this


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