Dear WDN, I have been a fan of this page and I have learnt so much from here.
Now my story, I am 30 yrs now, when I was 16 when I gave birth to my son who is now 14. I was then in a relationship with his father for 5 yrs. We were both young but loved each other. He was my first love. Parents from both sides tried all they could so that our relationship should end but it didnt until in 2001, when we parted ways because there was much pressure from his side in which he couldn’t handle.
Now we are all grown and he is married but he does not support the child and even my son does not know his father despite living in the same city but this doesn’t bother me that much because I do take good care of him myself.
The main issue now is his younger brother of the father to my son has proposed marriage to me. He is a good man, well presented and hard working too. We haven’t seen each other for a while until he started calling and visiting me late last year. We are now very close, I like him, it’s like I have found happiness again in him.
So, will it be okay if I accept his proposal. He does include me in all his plans, and before he does anything, he always ask for my opinion. Please help me, I am falling for this man daily.
Can I marry him despite the fact that I have a son with his elder brother? I pointed this to him, but he said it doesn’t bother him and he want us to marry before this year ends.
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