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“Leave Our Men Alone” Concerned Married Woman Heartcry Letter to Single Ladies

by WDN


A concerned married woman writes her heartfelt open letter to single ladies. In the letter, she states some reasons why the single ladies should stop dotting on the married men and rather, they should make all efforts to be independent financially, morally, emotionally etc.

Read her interesting open letter below….

Dear Single Ladies,

Na wa. Yes, na wa. Not because I am ignorant of appropriate ways to begin a letter but because no other beginning could be more expressively appropriate for you. “Na wa” because it is a common expression of bewilderment like when we hear Sister Lucy is called Candy outside church. “Na wa” because it is fitting for disgust like when we see Sisi Kemi is becoming a grandmother – scratch that, mother – as she is pregnant for Baba Ade. “Na wa” because we are fatigued by speechlessness seeing that when we say the Lord’s prayer for our husbands, we should replace “temptations” with “evil single ladies”. Hence, on these counts and more, I greet you “na wa”.
I have tried to make sense of your thing with our husbands. Though it is common knowledge that people cheat (it obviously transcends gender), you don’t find it easily accepted. Permit the truism that people won’t cheat if they’ve got no one to cheat with. Indeed, it is an issue we have to settle with our husbands. Yet, I dare to play the woman-to-woman card and clear this repugnant air with you. Trying to see things through your eyes, I wonder: what makes you accept married men as lovers?
Money? How much exactly? How much can a man possibly offer you that you can’t challenge yourself to make by yourself? That you are single means you are young, free and vibrant. So why not make that work positively profitably for you? I mean, except you are a daft, lazy, gold-digging leech (which I want to believe you are not), then you can be independent.

I have seen some of you sincerely swear that no single man can say he pays your bills. This is true because first they are not single and second because they are mostly “various” men. But I certainly don’t mean independent like that.

You like older men? I can’t judge you for that penchant. I really understand. Especially since many young men are still stuck on Jay Z’s “Young Forever” and are this close to leaving puberty in their 30’s. Since your turn-on is understandably maturity, I insistently scream, “By all means”. However, I have a simple request: leave the married men alone. There are widowers who would love their second wives deeply, and elderly men who for some reason never got married. These are a perfect class of options for you to frolic with or build that better-than-Telemundo love story. But please, leave the married men alone.

We are messed up married women? Our husbands tell you we suck in bed, nag their hormones dead and still smell of maggi no matter how we bathe? So, you become their aspirin for we headache-wives. Very kind you. But the beatitude on peacemaker doesn’t in anyway mean this neither are Nobel for Peace so won. Really want to help? Leave matter for “Matayas”.

Further thought on other reasons have yielded nothing. Don’t join a man in defying his vows. If you have no regard for God who warns that none should put asunder (I’m astounded that you don’t see a retribution there), then fear the devil. Wives are getting vicious. Ezinwa died stuck in intercourse with Papa Emeka. Onome has gone mad. Sarah has razor cuts on her face. Our husbands can’t be excited by dead girls so how do you miss these vile stories?

Another emphatic plea: leave married men alone. Person wey talk say our water no go boil, dem no go sell matches for hin village o.

For Slighted Wives,
A Concerned Wife.

Photo courtesy- @peniel_enchill

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jgurl March 19, 2015 - 1:29 pm

Nawa nawa we ll think about it

Nancy March 19, 2015 - 10:11 pm

Na wa o! Dear Mrs come 2 think of it, hv u ask urself if these single ladies point a gun on ur husbands 2 go out with them? Pls blame ur husbands 4 these stupid act cos they are d ones tempting these single ladies. If not 4 d fact that I’ve vowed that I would never date a marred man, i wld hv succumbed to the pressure of one married man last week. He just won’t let me be, he kept disturbing my life. So Mrs na wa o! The fault is not only on d single ladies, but also on ur husbands. They keep disturbing everything on skirt, they don’t stop. Just keep praying 4 them

tania March 19, 2015 - 10:57 pm

Wonder what nawa nawa will do if she actually catches her hubby cheating on her with another man…

Melba March 20, 2015 - 5:07 am

As a bird that wanders from her nest, so is a man who strays from his home. Proverbs 27:8
Both parties need to be held accountable, be it male or female if their eyes wandered before they got married and it wasn’t addressed then,then the shinangings will continue. Adultery be it male or female it’s unacceptable period.

honeydrop March 27, 2015 - 7:13 am

Na wa o..I think I feel it from her perspective…yes some married men chase after single women but if we single ladies deny them deyll av no choice but to return home, cos we would be married someday nd wouldn’t want d same thing..cos dearies..karma is a bi*ch

olori July 12, 2015 - 3:21 am

I don’t tink d married men also hold guns.do they toast u at gunpoint.lazy bones dat want free money.


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