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My Mother-In-Law Needs A Grandchild Because My Husband Is Her Only Son. Should I Go For IVF Or………I Am Totally Confused.

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I got married last year and till now I’m still trying to get pregnant to no avail. I’ve prayed, I’m praying and will continue to pray. But the problem is I am already getting depressed and worried so much and things irritate me easily. One big problem again is my husband is the only son and I feel I am letting my mother-in-law down (sure she needs a grandchild). Now we are suppose to travel for easter and I am sad I don’t have a baby-growing tummy with me. So today I went online to research on IVF and it is such a good option! Should I go for IVF or wait on God no matter how long? Am taking my IVF issue to God but Please advice.

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tayo March 28, 2014 - 6:52 pm

Its too early for you to go for an IVF o…Have you and your husband gone to the doctor to check yourselves..pls do.And the bible says we shldnt be anxious,anxiety means fear..So mayb ou shld jst relax ur body and enjoy sex..Jst put your mind at rest,You wld carry your children,amen.

onyinye March 28, 2014 - 7:07 pm

Ivf is good but invasive. You and your husband should meet an O&G doctor for a thorough checkup and advice. You can try enugu fertitily center(Dr onah). He is very good. Baby dust to you.

Adebola March 28, 2014 - 7:15 pm

My sister with God all things are possible. It’s too early to be anxious. God’s timing is the best.In as much as Ivf is good and yields positive results, if it is not God’s will for you it will not work for you . Just trust in God Totally.

Name* March 28, 2014 - 8:01 pm

Hi,there is nothing God can not do jst kip hopn on him alone.it is written children are heritage from God and known shall be barren in his land so my dear he will do it.

brenda from uganda March 28, 2014 - 8:05 pm

ma dia even IVF isn’t a guarantee DAT u will get pregnant sometimes pple try it and it still fails. and u should know that conception is affected by stress of trying so hard. so relax ure body and mind if u and ure hubby a both OK u will conceive at the right time. one yr is still so early for Christ sake DAT ure mother in law should give u a break!

eve March 28, 2014 - 8:19 pm

Sori and none shall be barren in his land.

Vivian March 28, 2014 - 8:35 pm

Being worried n stressed is nt a good condition 2 b in if u want 2 get pregnant,u need 2 relax ur mind n have faith in God n continue 2 put it in prayers. I wish u the best.

dammy March 28, 2014 - 8:57 pm

I will advice u should try and visit island maternity hospital they have gyneacology clinic with there you might got solution.

Ade March 28, 2014 - 9:42 pm

How long precisely have you been waiting? Your OBGYN should have done various tests on you, and hubby before an IVf becomes an option. If you don’t have complications, its not an option to dive into with series of test. Also, Gods time is the best, you need to be relaxed and patient. Good luck and God bless.

Francis Grace March 28, 2014 - 11:18 pm

Just a year? U really dnt need all of dis stress u’re puttn ursef in. Dear, just relax n enjoy ur marriage, I knw notin is wrong wit u or ur husband. So look up to GOD n wait for HIM.

everlyne March 29, 2014 - 2:40 am

Wait upon God , only final say, not the doctor report, no ivf
Don’t mess with ur body.its waste of money.agree with God both of u.And this year 2014 He is going to surprise u with ur samuel in Jesus Name.Amen and Amen.

margaret March 29, 2014 - 10:27 am

sweetheart have faith in God…. God is able,don’t loose hope too soon,remember their shall be none barren in the land and u getting depressed also adds up to the issue at hand because depression also makes someone not to take in,if i may say ivf is not a good idea now is too early…. keep praying surely God will surprise you…. Remain blessed

Grace March 29, 2014 - 3:08 pm

Just a year! Hmm, I think u r bothering so much over notin. U r perfectly fine . U just need to relax ur self n enjoy ur NEW home, den kids will kom. Trust me, its too early to start hurting ur self by thinking u r letting ur mother in-law down.

Key point is, stay calm n enjoy ur marriage. It is well

madam cash April 1, 2014 - 11:58 am

I feel you should first of all stop worrying and start resting n trust God….

ipio April 5, 2014 - 7:28 pm

Pls, is too early to start worrying, your mother in law cant make children, forget about her, stay focus and go get yourselves checked with a good gynaecologist and pray to God the giver of children.

Jaennie April 5, 2014 - 8:34 pm

My dear, you are just anxious over nothing. First, from my own point of view, babies don’t come when you are soooo anxious of them. First, you and your husband have to go to a clinic first, have some tests like seminal analysis for ur husband, pelvic scan,urine mcs for you, done. Then all things being equal, enjoy ur sex life, feed and exercise healthy for u two. Then try and know your cycle. Know when you ovulate. If its on the 14th day as in the 28days cycle, then this is what we would try. Commit it to God first, then on the first day of your month’s menses, count it as day1. Keep counting till day9, then stop having intercourse with ur husband. Keep counting till day14, then you two can commence intercourse. The essence of stopping is that it takes a matured sperm and an egg for fertilization to occur, and it takes 4-5days for a sperm to mature. You have to explain this process to your husband too, and while he abstains, he can go ahead and be taking yoghurt or a drug known as manix(can be gotten from a good pharmacy, and also the prescription), to boost his sperm count. Then after each intercourse, don’t be fast with jumping up. This sperm is a fluid, and has the tendency of flowing back/out. So after each session, kindly remain calm in same position, you can raise your waist with a pillow, and remain like that for some minutes, before getting up. Enjoy the sex, not doing it cos of a baby. Early morning sex ain’t a bad idea tho. And remember, its not only once that confirms it positive. Just make you two’s sex life as normal as possible.. When this baby will come, you wouldn’t even know. You are amazing, so amazing things would happen to you and your marriage. I pray it works for you dear. God bless!

Mackay April 17, 2015 - 10:13 am

My dear I had a friend that also got married to the only son/child of the family. After two years of trying they visited the doctor and confirmed that the husband had sperm quality issues while the woman was OK. They were like that trying, and opted for IVF. The doctor advised it should be the last and final resort they kept trying till they were four and half year in matrimony before they finally had a child. The doctor just placed the hubby on Vitamin E (Spring Valley vitamin supplement) to take two times a day for three months. Lo and behold at the end of the three months she got pregnant. They now have a two months bouncing baby boy. It is also advisable to be putting it into prayers and avoid being stressed up.


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