Today is International Women’s Day and it is a day to celebrate every woman. International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated on March 8 every year. It commemorates the movement for women’s rights.
Lifestyle vlogger Adanna Steinacker of AdannaDavid shares this beautiful message and it is pretty inspiring.
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I • W • D ?…Happy International Women’s Day ?? Growing up in Nigeria I experienced the difference between growing up as a girl compared to my brothers.
The girls were expected to be ‘domestic’, to ‘learn how to cook’, to ‘serve the guests when they arrived’, to be ‘polite’. I would hear phrases like ‘How are you expected to know this when you get to your husband’s house?’ I knew quite early that being ‘a wife’ wasn’t all I wanted, but I was convinced. I wanted to be ‘a good wife’ no doubt, but I also prayed my future husband will support my childhood dream of becoming a Doctor.
And since our brothers were older it was a lot more confusing for us to understand whether these ‘gender stereotyped domestic roles’ my sisters and I were engaging in were because of the obligatory cultural expectation to respect one’s elders or if it was because we were girls. All I knew was, I didn’t like spending my time doing chores that would’ve been greatly reduced if more hands (all 5 of us) were on deck.
I remember family members talking my Dad out of buying my twin sister and I a car because ‘which man is going to talk to them if they’re driving around in that thing’ ? All I thought was ‘well the man who will be intimidated by that is the man I DO NOT want to be with’
When I got to England and had more access to YouTube videos, I stumbled across @chimamanda_adichie (oh how I LOVE this woman ?), she was preaching to me the mindset I had, although didn’t know that it meant I was a Feminist. All I craved was being treated as equals, because I’m human..simple!
While in England I met my ‘Obinze’, the Prince who ticked all the boxes of marriage, Nigerian, Igbo, yellow paw paw, worked in an oil company, considerably older
I was excited and looking forward to becoming a wife in my early twenties ? Until I heard phrases like “A woman should take pride in washing the bathroom she shares with her husband” & “Well if you’re busy being a Doctor who will take care of the kids at home” ??♀️ ** Inserts Beyonce’s “Sorry” ** #BoyBye ✌? Meeting David was a different experience, a very pleasant one. Someone who treated me as equals, respected my opinions and my dreams, didn’t think being a good wife meant having ready made dishes or doing household chores ..and then I realised his upbringing had a great role to play with this mindset.
So in honour of International Women’s Day, I would like to thank the men who have stood by us to support this movement of equality; women & men (like my parents-in-law) who raised men to think of women as equals; men (like my brothers) who despite the influence society had on their upbringing have realised indeed that women are no lesser beings and deserve equality; women (like myself) who in this generation are raising their boys to understand that domestic roles do not have ‘Female’ written on them, women (like @chimamanda_adichie) who have spoken up boldly to demand equality; every woman & man who has continued to press for progress and help move society forward in the right direction.
“There is no limit to what we as women can accomplish” – Michelle Obama ?? I’ve never been so proud to be a woman, a Black African woman ??♀️ HAPPY IWD QUEENS ??? #InternationalWomensDay #WakandaStateOfMind #iwd2018 #PressForProgress #AllGirlsRock #KnowYourWorth #GenderEquality #Justice #FemaleEmpowerment #Perspective #Positivity