Noble Igwe definitely pulled off the most traditional engagement ever. He describes that he is an Igbo man to the core and he certainly had to leave no stones unturned when he planned proposing to Chioma, his wife. This is a really interesting, but lengthy read. But not to worry, it would be worth your while.. So.. Go on, grab a tissue box, because someone might be cutting onions beside you.
Read Noble and Chioma Igwe’s proposal story below :
- “Let’s get something out of the way, you don’t have to travel to buy your engagement ring or anything for that matter, it has to be convenient and there are way too many business in Nigeria that can help you get your engagement ring.
I went to the US because I could and also because I had planned to travel prior to the discussion.
I noticed some people reading the mini stories feel that they need to travel to buy a ring when all the need to is understand the woman they intend to settle down with.Some women, want a simple ring and enough money for food,while some want something blinding but you need to first find out what she wants. * Few weeks after telling @remifagbohun , I traveled and went to Soho to search for the perfect engagement ring*
Nobs : I like some of the rings but they don’t really cut it for what I really want.
Remi: Whatever you want, we’d get
Nobs : How long will a custom design take ?
Remi : We could ask and I’d bring it myself
Nobs : Okay 👌🏼 *We moves around,saw some design but I wasn’t still convinced.
I came back to Nigeria & then contact @rebeccanoffshe showed me different designs but we decided to design something special for Chioma and then sent her developers abroad.
When the ring came, I asked Ronke to keep it until I’m ready to ask the question. *I wanted my proposal to mean something to Chioma and I, so I planned for it to happen in Aba, the city we both grew up and in a place that mean so much to me.
It didn’t go as I planned or so I thought.
Guess where I proposed ?I don’t know about everyone else but I’m proudly Igbo and in most cases, I always ask about how certain things are done in Igbo land.
In my village, you don’t marry a woman with just a ring, you start with ‘Iku Aka’ rite which could be termed as introduction.
In reality, if you see a girl you’d like to marry, you buy her body lotion,hair cream, bread,milk, slippers and so many other self care products.You’ll then take those things with your parents and visit her parents house to gift her.
The idea is that you have seen something beautiful and have brought her things to help her maintain her beauty.
In my tradition and most Igbo tradition, the gifts serve as a proposal and her acceptance of the gift means that she’s willing to marry you.
To this effect,I informed my parents that I was ready for Iku Aka as you are required buy tradition to go with your family and well wishers.
Nobs : Danda, I want us to go to Chioma’s house for Iku Aka.
Danda : Ekene Diri Chineke, when ?
Nobs : This December
Danda : Okay. Do you want me to call his father or will you call him?
Nobs: Let me discuss with him first and revert.
Danda : Ngwanu
I had thought it was going to be an easy call but when I finally called my FIL, he told how he wanted the process to me.
Nobs : Daddy, I’ll like to visit with my family.
I am ready to start things formally like I hinted during our last conversation.
FIL : That’s fine,Baba Noble but you know that even though she’s my daughter,I don’t own her alone.So you have to go meet my sister and brothers.
Nobs : Okay Daddy
FIL : Do you want me to Whatsapp their numbers or will you get them from Chioma?
Nobs : Daddy, Send then to me and I’d call them.
That was how I started my trip around Nigeria to go see my FIL’s family.
Visited Aunty Ugo in Lagos, Uncle Kalu Otisi in Abuja, Called Uncle Ndukwe and all.
I informed them all of my intentions and I hadn’t given Chioma any ring at that point.
We fixed for a date in December and I was travelled back home with Chioma but before I teavel, I was meant to pick up the ring.
How can I pick the ring if Chioma is going to ride in the same car with me?