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It was July 4, 2012 – It was our 7th anniversary (from day we met). Abi flew into Houston and I was in the middle of moving into my new apartment in Galveston for medical school. I picked him up from the airport and drove straight to the apartment so he could help me move my stuffs. We didn’t have any formal anniversary plans and just planned to go to the mall and dinner later.
It was around 5pm and he was rushing for us to leave because the mall was going to close at 7pm. I thought I looked bummy, so I ran upstairs to change. I ran downstairs straight into the kitchen and started complaining about the refrigerator making a weird noise. I was so distracted, I didn’t realize he was already down on his knee in the living room. He called out to me to hurry up so I rushed to the living room and saw him down on one knee.
I immediately asked “what are you doing??” and told him to get up. I then realized he was about to propose and I burst into tears. He was so nervous that he messed up the order of my name before he asked me to marry him. We laughed (while I still cried) and I said “YES”!!!
The wedding ceremony was held on June 8 at a beautiful Catholic Church in Houston. We all arrived in style in Porsche Cayenne S Limo and Mercedes GL450 Limousines. My father walked me down the aisle and I held back tears as I approached my husband, who was smiling from ear to ear. During the wedding reception, we danced in to Naija tunes and our guests went crazy! Money was sprayed left and right and guests said we looked like we had choreographed our dance because we would etighi and azonto in unison, even though we had not. The groom danced to Marvin Gaye’s “Let’s Get It On” while taking off the garter. The whole crowd was in laughter and I would have to say that was one of the funniest moments of the whole wedding weekend.
On June 9, we held the Bibife ceremony at his uncle’s home. One aspect of the Kalabari traditional marriage ceremony is the Bibife (literally translates…”buying of the mouth”) Ceremony. It signifies three main things. The first is to reach a stage in full marriage that gives the bride the right to cook and eat in the husband’s house. The second is to signify the man’s responsibility towards his wife and to show his capability and willingness to feed her for the rest of her life. Finally, it signifies the communion of the two families. While his family bought my mouth, I was not allowed to smile. My husband kept laughing at me and I had to hide my own laughter. So after I couldn’t smile while they bought my mouth, I had to thank Abi for marrying me. I got down on my knees and thanked him over and over but he ignored me until I have thanked him enough. I gave him George material and sprayed him with cologne as his gift. He accepted, the marriage is official. Now I can cook and eat in his family’s house and vice versa.
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June 6, the day of the traditional, was also my dad’s birthday, and we cut cake and sang happy birthday for him during the ceremony. June 8th (white wedding) was also his mom’s birthday and we sang happy birthday to her before the mother/son dance.
WDN wishes the couple a joyous & fruitful marital bliss together….forever.