I’m 48 and my husband and I have been together for over 20 years. We have two lovely children and my husband is kind and loyal. However, over the last five or 10 years, he has become completely unaffectionate.
We never cuddle, kiss or hold hands. He never tells me I look nice, even though I’ve made an effort to keep my figure trim by going to the gym and running regularly.
Without wanting to sound big-headed, I know I look good for my age, but he never comments on this. He never initiates sex and if I do, he’ll have sex with me but doesn’t seem overly bothered whether we do it or not.
Yet it’s not this that bothers me so much as the lack of affection. Is it too much to expect after 20 years of marriage to still want to hold hands or even kiss?
How do I make him relax I need him more than ever?