I’ve been reading Mandy Hales’ Sassy Survival Guide: Letting Go and Moving On and I’ve realized I have let go of some people and things in my life too. I’m one person who has a problem letting go; be it a person or anything in my possession. Sometimes I would still wear my worn out shoes or use my tattered bag because I easily get attached. Imagine how I feel when I have to let go of people.
I think we’re all guilty of trying to recycle relationships that need to be replaced.
But when do we stop holding on to people?
When they start sucking out all the energy that we have. When the environment becomes toxic.
When we’ve tried so hard to reach out, to show we care, to try to get involved with their lives but get pushed away.
When we feel like we’ve overstayed our welcome because the warmth suddenly turns cold.
When, as much as we want to connect with them, they won’t let us.
When they’ve limit themselves and built a wall around them and they won’t let us in.
When they have to start whispering or stop talking altogether when we’re around for some reason we may not understand.
When we have to limit ourselves from doing the things we want, going to places we want to go, because they can’t be with us. When we have to be somebody else around them because they don’t quite get what we want or say, even if all we’ve ever wanted is to bless them with what we have and know.
We stop holding on, simply when they start pushing us away.
I am one person who finds it hard to let go of someone or something—that I sense is also trying to hold on. But I also am quick to let go if I know that I’m the only one left holding on.
I am a very intuitive person. You don’t have to say a word. You don’t have to give me an explanation. I can read between the lines. I can read body language. I can detect when something’s going on behind my back. I sense awkwardness no matter how faint. I sense hostility no matter how much you cover it up with casual conversation or a forced smile.
There’s a season for everything. Maybe their time in our lives is over. Maybe they’ve already served their purpose. Maybe it’s healthier and better for us to go our separate ways or else we’ll end up hurting each other along the way.
When going separate ways, you should still pray for them and wish them well. Pray for God to remove any ill feelings this separation may have caused. Just remember that sometimes it’s best to love certain people from a distance. Sometimes you have to part ways with certain people. If they’re meant to be in your life, God will place them in your path again.
All we can do now is just thank God to have led us to them, because we’ve learned, we’ve loved, we’ve grown and hopefully we’ve become better through them.
I may not always understand why things need to end, or how we started to drift apart but as always, I believe everything happens for a reason.
I may not always know what went wrong , but as the seasons change, so should people. So should relationships.
And as always, it’s for the best.
Written: Lux Ganzon
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