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See Beyond Tribes

by San Dee


*Am smiling and shaking my head*
I read a post on a group,asking people which state is best to date or get married to? And as i read the comments of people i smiled and shook my head.
The Bible said,My People Perish because they Lack Knowledge.

If you are Looking For a Partner and you are Legible for Marriage and you listen first to what people think or say about a particular tribe or state without first having your own personal encounter with the person,then Ɣu may never get it right with your choice, you are indirectly telling God, you can do it without him.

IF i had not served in the north,i would have said the HAUSAS are wicked and animalistic but i have lived with these people and i can boldly tell you there are wonderful hospitable people there.

If i had not lived in Delta state,i wouldnt have known there are Decent,Hardworking,Responsible and loving people.

I have heard some nasty things people say about Edo People but i schooled there and i can bodly tell you there are industrious,loving and respectable,sensible guys and ladies there.

They say Igbo men are Stingy,they are ritualists,the women are money lovers and this and that,but i can boldly tell you that they are industrious,family oriented,hospitable and caring.

I have Great Yoruba friends who are exceptionally intelligent,loving,family oriented and graceful.
What am i saying in essence,DO NOT MISTAKE TRIBES,CULTURES,STATES,EXPERIENCES for the PERSONALITY of the people you may meet or meet in this life.

Separate A Man from What you have heard about his tribe,state or your own experience.

That you ONCE dated a STINGY IGBO Man doesnt mean the rest are that way,it doesnt mean all Igbo men are stingy,maybe if they were also ritualists,then i would have died by now.

That you had a Painful Encounter with A yoruba lady and she jilted you,doesnt mean all yoruba ladies are same.

That you heard an Edo woman left her husband for another man,doesnt mean all EDO women are same.

These are evil thoughts and negative mindsets about life that will limit you to where you are supposed to be and who you are supposed to be with.
If God should treat us based on our tribes then i dont think we would be where we are today or who we are today.
Them say,them say,dey kill. They said,what have you said,what has God said?
Who’s Report would you believe?
Tribalism is a demonic thing and never indulge in it or encourage it.

Most people are the way they are not because of their tribe or culture but because its their personality which might be as a result of their experiences,its not an excuse though but thats life. Personalities differ,just like our faces are,some persons have had tough experiences in life and it has caused them to be the way they are,that doesnt mean their tribe is bad or evil.

Dont limit your mind to your tribe or state,dont let the devil deceive you and put you in a stagnant corner.

Dont live your life with what them say,have a positive godly say for yourself.
Do not judge people if you have not come close to them,because you will be making a big mistake.

If you think you are good or your tribe is wonderful what makes you think someone else’s would be bad?

Discourage Tribalism,We Are One In God’s Eyes,We are heirs of the father,we are joint heirs with Christ.

Love everyone despite their skin colour and tribe.

I love Ɣou.

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bouq February 1, 2014 - 10:17 pm

korect San Dee… thumbs up!!!

Mma February 2, 2014 - 5:56 pm

very correct look beyond culture, tribe and state just focus on the person.

maris February 3, 2014 - 1:05 am

Nice one. The best ever

phunky August 21, 2014 - 4:37 pm

Its a nice piecebt its easier said than done. Am actually in this dilemma. Yoruba dating igbo. Am scared

Rj September 18, 2014 - 11:32 pm

nice piece i wish my family wil read dis.cos am frm north datin yoruba wch bcame a serious problem.

Noblepatience October 4, 2015 - 10:26 pm

I love you too and thanks a lot for your post… It’s really an eye opener


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