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She Really Tried to Make me a Heterosexual…But I’m still Not , Sadly” Kehinde Bademosi Reveals He is Gay

by WDN

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Kehinde Bademosi talked about his HIV status sometime ago. Today, Kehinde opened up he is gay and he didn’t deem it fit to cheat in his ex-wife so they had to divorce. “After six years together, I knew I was not getting any better. I STILL LOVED MEN”, he says. He tried to tell everyone that cared to listen his sexual preference but they ignored his speech. ” I lost friends, businesses, sponsorships and family members. I had to start my life all again”, he added.

Kehinde shares his thought below….

“When I first told my ex-wife that I was gay, we were far from being married. I wanted her to find other men honorably, who had a thing for women. I never did. I ‘swear down.’ I was only obeying the popular demand of traditions. Now, this was my terrible mistake. No one should live their life based on dogmas and other people’s expectations. As far as I could remember, even though I was always dating girls, I had always preferred being with a man. I had fought it with every fiber of spirituality in me as a Pentecostal preacher boy (find details and journeys in my book ‘THE EXODUS.’) The more I fought my sexual preference for men, the more I became more miserable. Unfortunately, as erroneously believed, sex wasn’t the problem. I had been having sex with women as far back as a twelve-year-old. Sexuality is whom we are emotionally present with, not whom we are sleeping with. And oh boy, she really tried to make me a heterosexual. But I’m still not, sadly.
One of those pre-marriage days, while we were with our marriage counseling team, I brought up the issue again – that I had always had a preference for men. I wanted the Ministers to dissuade her from the marriage. I just couldn’t put a ring on a fat big lie. My father taught me one principle: DIE FOR YOUR OWN TRUTH, EVEN IF IT’S UNPOPULAR, BUT DON’T HARM OTHERS WITH IT. She was so happy to tell the ministers, as quickly as she could, that my feelings for men would all be gone, because she believed it was a childhood disorder. I guess she meant she was going to fck my brains into heterosexuality. This is a mistake a lot of us make. We all want to change people to conform to our preferences. We find it easier to play god in the lives of people we did not make.

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After six years together, I knew I was not getting any better. I STILL LOVED MEN. And one day, because I didn’t want to cheat on her, I humbly asked her that we should go our separate ways. That was when all hell broke loose. She suddenly forgot about how it all started. In court, she told the Judge how she suddenly found out that I was gay, and how it’s against the Law of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. In other words, she wanted me sentenced to the new 14 years jail term served by the Nigerian government. Luckily, I was in a civil court. Sadly, that day, I had to duck my face in shame as the crowd jeered at me for being whom I had always been. ‘You faggot’ ‘Oh what a shameful man!’ ‘homo!’ ‘Na wa o ‘ I still don’t know how I walked out of the court premises that day. ( this case is still ongoing) What about my business.? Tell any client in Nigeria that you are gay, and you lose their business. That’s exactly what happened. I lost friends, businesses, sponsorships and family members. I had to start my life all again. Applied for a new job. Get back to school. Although my ex-wife is one of the most faithful and beautiful women in Nigeria, she is a victim of institutionalized homophobia. Just like many people who are reading this.
It will be exactly a year today, when Nigeria instituted a law to jail people like me. What’s our offense? Because we are simply wired differently. There are only about 5 to 10% of homosexuals in every population as cited by popular findings and documents. Why is a 90% dominant population afraid of its 10%? Shouldn’t you care about us? Don’t you think it’s a lot easier to be seen as part of the 90%? And before you throw those religious verses on us for being wired differently, I want to leave you with my favorite Bible verses from Romans 8:Italics mine:

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That Nothing Can Separate Us from ( the universal narrative of ) God’s Love
31 What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?
32 Since he did not spare even his own Son ( in the popular narratives according to the Christian Faith ) but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?
33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself.
34 Who then will condemn us? No one…
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.
39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in ( in the narrative of ) Christ Jesus our Lord”.

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30 comments

pritydel January 8, 2015 - 10:20 am

Give your life to Jesus Christ!!!!

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Sarah January 8, 2015 - 10:31 am

It’s not in this era gay people exist,it started way back even in the old testament.God detested it that’s why he destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah,you should think about what you’ve gotten yourself into

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Anon January 8, 2015 - 10:52 am

Read chapter 1:18-32 of the same Romans u talked about.

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chinyere January 8, 2015 - 10:59 am

and dis same Bible is against being a gay. this same God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah because of dis act. is a trick of d devil so get over it. if u really wana b straight pray ur way out of it. pple have survived it, u too can. stop quoting d scriptures and wake up hell is real.

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Hboss January 8, 2015 - 11:11 am

I realized Something is this guy’s write up
He tried to caution himself but he couldn’t,
His Ex-wife tried to divert his thought and feeling from the Homo thing which he also wished she could but she couldn’t
Ain’t supporting homosexual o buh i think it something you can’t just fight… it’ll only take God’s Grace and prayer to overcome

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kevin January 8, 2015 - 11:19 am

This is not right, the homosexual relationship was never God’s design. The beginning of deliverance is for this man to know he has a problem and this problem can be solved by Jesus.

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Ifi January 8, 2015 - 11:23 am

WDN I’m kinda disappointed at you for posting this kind of story; but on 2nd thought, you should have highlighted the ills about it rather than posting a full scripted story-line as this.
No one should enter any relationship/marriage with the thought of changing the person or believing that the person will change into who u want he or she to be.
This goes to Kehinde Bademosi- since you choosed scriptures from the Holy Bible as back up, read the same Romans Chapter 1: 27-28. But I’m not suprise @ your boldness bcos Ecclesiastes 6:1 has clearly stated that “There is an evil which I have seen under the sun, and it is common among men”.

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TeemaEssence January 8, 2015 - 11:41 am

End time. God have mercy. Kehinde give your life to Christ or you end up destroyed

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Angela January 8, 2015 - 11:48 am

Honestly these homo tin is not something we can explain with our normal eyes.The confidence they posess is something else.God help our hubbys and unborn sons.How can this fine man be addicted to sleeping with men?

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SJ January 8, 2015 - 11:51 am

No judgement, because we all sin differently. But maybe the devil took a foothold in your life, when you started sleeping with girls at 12. Sex at 12 was kinda early. Homosexuality is not nature, and no matter what the western world tries to tell you, there is no such thing as being wired a homosexual; same way there is no such thing as being wired a lesbian, or a thief, or a liar, or an adulterer. They are all sins we humans commit. Instead of trying to justify it, the sooner we all acknowledge our different sins, the better the chance of being free from them.
All the best on your journey and i sincerely hope you find the right path.

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jenny January 8, 2015 - 12:10 pm

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jenny January 8, 2015 - 12:18 pm

I cannot believe he is a Nigerian and it is a big shame that he would speak and justify is actions by quoting the bible and besides God created Eve because she suits Adam he could have created another Adam if he wanted but instead he created eve. I will continue to pray for you that you meet with Christ and let him show you the way and in case you’ve never heard of a word called taboo what you’re doing is a taboo in God’s presence and in your culture with consequences

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African Salon Dubai January 8, 2015 - 12:27 pm

It is your life to live as you please! Enjoy it!

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benny January 8, 2015 - 12:35 pm

Hmmmm . truly @Angela you are so right.it is not smthing one can explain with our own eyes.its a sickness a rotten evil from d depth of hell.and can evil be truly explained??? I can’t judge you kehinde. But ill tell you dis from one human being to another run to God with humility and deep repentance the same bible says” all who are heavy laden who run to Jesus will hv rest.”

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mary January 8, 2015 - 12:52 pm

Before you point fingers @ people check your self first. I’m not saying being gay is acceptable by God but there are many other sins that we commit that God does not approve of. At least he was honest with his wife. she knew what she was getting her self involved in so I dont feel any pity for her. Its easy to critise when ur not in that position. Telling people there going hell fire does don’t help the person. People need advice not critisim. Everyone has their own demons there fighting with.

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Tima January 8, 2015 - 1:21 pm

“How Should I Treat a Gay or Lesbian person? Should I Shun a Gay or Lesbian Person?
Jesus and other New Testament leaders taught by word and example not to be self-righteous or shun or discriminate against those we consider to be “sinners” (Matthew 9:10-13, Luke 7:36-48, 18:9-14).

The Bible’s moral teachings are to help us live according to God’s will. They are not intended to be used to condemn other people. Jesus told us to eliminate the sins in our own lives rather than passing judgment or looking down on others. If we judge other people harshly, we will, in turn, be judged harshly:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. (NIV, Matthew 7:1-2)

Christians have a responsibility to correct matters of wrongdoing within the church, but this should always be done fairly and with the goal of bringing the offender back into harmony with the church community (Matthew 18:15-17, 1 Corinthians 5:9-13). We are never to take upon ourselves the task of judgment that belongs to God alone (Matthew 22:37-40, Hebrews 10:30, Romans 14:10-13, 1 Corinthians 4:5). James makes it clear that we must treat others with mercy, not with judgment (criticism or condemnation) or partiality (prejudice or discrimination):

You do well if you really fulfill the royal law according to the scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you show partiality, you commit sin and are convicted by the law as transgressors. For whoever keeps the whole law but fails in one point has become accountable for all of it. For the one who said, “You shall not commit adultery,” also said, “You shall not murder.” Now if you do not commit adultery but if you murder, you have become a transgressor of the law. So speak and so act as those who are to be judged by the law of liberty. For judgment will be without mercy to anyone who has shown no mercy; mercy triumphs over judgment. (NRSV, James 2:8-13)

As Christians, we must remember that all of us are sinners in our own ways (Romans 3:21-24, 5:12, 1 John 1:8). Despite that, God loves all His children (Genesis 1:31, Psalms 145:9, Matthew 5:43-45, John 3:16, Romans 5:8). We cannot afford to let our feelings or fears about homosexuality blind us to Jesus’ commandment to “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:36-39).

There is nothing in the Bible advocating or authorizing violence, hatred, job discrimination, legal discrimination or taunting directed at homosexuals. Neither is there any Biblical justification for shunning, disowning or evicting lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender family members (1 Timothy 5:8, Colossians 3:21).” Let God be the judge. Jesus atoned for our sins in the New Testament.

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ritzy January 8, 2015 - 1:23 pm

Some of my sisters and brothers in Christ have given you good anwers, first beware of misquoting the bible to clear your conscience,read precisely Romans 1:26-27,then you’ll know whether you are condemned or not,sin can separate you from the love of God and so many other things,if you said you have tried to quit but not succeeding maybe you need to try harder bcus trying to quit just to please ppl wont work you need to accept it with yourself to fight the demon behind homosexuality,devil is really looking for those who were called to pull them into the eternal damnation,reject it my bro,i can see the fear of God in you,but you need to fight this thing called gay,a word is enough for the wise,seek JESUS CHRIST to help you and he will.peace!

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Guinevere Maton January 8, 2015 - 2:15 pm

They are always HIV positive… They think cos God hasn’t sent down fire to consume them like in the days of old He’s asleep? Two unforgivable sins God can’t stand is Sodomy and causing disunity in His church. He stroke down Ananias and Saphira instantly for that and sent down fire on Sodom and Gomorrah, even turned Lots’ wife into a pillar of salt for even thinking twice about it. I pray those of us that take their time to say “don’t judge cos they sin different” don’t get turned to pillars of salt and those causing disunity won’t be stroke down. God is a very merciful God but will NEVER be part of homosexuality. Its an insult to His glory for creating a female helper for Adam. I bet you are a reincarnation from people of old who took mirrors and gave gold. You never see shame yet!

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phine January 8, 2015 - 2:29 pm

Homosexuality is a sin. Give your life to Christ. It is actually sad when people quote the part of the Bible that suits them. What about the part that says it is a sin?

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tinuke January 8, 2015 - 3:03 pm

even the devil appear to be an angel of light by twisting the scripture. all u have just said is d gospel according 2 saint u! cos u are misquoting the scripture. U had better believed & accept Jesus Christ as ur Lord & personal saviour. i pray the Lord Himself will reveal Himself to you

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frank January 8, 2015 - 4:02 pm

it takes the grace of God to move out frm this, dont blame him, just put him in ur prayers and stop condemning him…

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bunni January 8, 2015 - 4:04 pm

If God could care for animal of the same kind mating together. Where does the idea of gay and lesbians coming from. Certainly the devil. Genesis 7:6. May you be deliver.

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akanke January 8, 2015 - 7:18 pm

wow, this is so sad! am not criticizing you but with your relationship with MEN so far what have you gained?.And I guess that beautiful boy is a product of your relationship with a woman. Believe me, life and afterlife is more than sexual satistaction.

It is well.

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muwa January 8, 2015 - 8:10 pm

I wonder what his doing walking a free man, maybe luring small boys the future into his demonic and twisted ways of homosexuality. its unfortunate that WDN and some other media still allow or publish his senseless ranting and upside down understanding of d bible. don’t let Jehovah strick u down there. Na Devil go rape u soon.u better go for deliverance.

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love January 8, 2015 - 9:15 pm

hahahaha so you are happy talking such rubbish and even quoting bible to justify your actions. if you are truly a child of God, you will love what he loves and hate what he hates. God created man and woman not man and man in his own wisdom but in the wisdom of man, man can f*ck his fellow… that, should be ashamed for coming out boldly to talk that thwart. what is this world turning into, God have mercy on our future generation.

The bible says we shouldn’t judge but the same bible say if your friend/family as we all are going the wrong way should be warn from his/her bad ways so as not his blood be requested from me. God deliver us once again from the hands of the devil.

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sarah January 9, 2015 - 2:09 pm

Am a sinner too, but dis is disgusting, hop u gt 2 read all dis comments nd humbly go bac 2 JESUS he loves u nd he is always dia 2 help. U ar very wrong bro kehinde, please go bac 2 GOD.

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Princess January 9, 2015 - 5:16 pm

my dear, heaven and hell are real. This is end time and things are rolling up. There’s a church called VPA in London UK. God is delivering His children from all manner of affliction, including homosexuality and lesbianism. Seek God whilst He can still be found.

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amylinks January 13, 2015 - 7:38 pm

that is a horrible application of the scriptures. Nothing can separate you from God’s love except you. And being gay is definitely seeking ur own righteousness and not God’s righteousness

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joy August 7, 2015 - 5:04 pm

Na waoh. Men. So we two go come dey drag husband now. U too dey like man,Me woman dey like man. Who go come WIN na?. Mak una help me beg kehinde mak him leave my boy friend for me. Lol

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Star November 22, 2015 - 9:31 am

You are kind of putting the blame on the woman for marrying you. You are responsible for your own actions. If you knew you had that proclivity you should not have entered the union in the first place. Did sge have a noose around your neck? There are so many guys in this so called dilemma who will not marry because they think they are on the other side.

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