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This Issue is about to Break or Make my Relationship: My Boyfriend Insists I should take the Back Seat whenever we ride with his Friends

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Please I need your opinion as well as your followers on something.

Scenario: My boyfriend always insists I sit at the back seat whilst his friend sits with him in front. Even when I pointed out how disrespected that made me feel he made it very clear I was not allowed to ever sit in front if any his male friends are riding with us.

Question: Who gets the front seat? Me or him (male friend)?

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15 comments

JosephineOtim March 4, 2015 - 8:31 pm

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lillian March 4, 2015 - 8:46 pm

My dear, a man who doesn’t respect ur opinion and u during court ship cannot and will not respect u when u r married !.

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D.D. Audrey March 4, 2015 - 10:52 pm

My sista, thank God he is telling you the value he places on you before you married him. You will always be behind his friends, his family, his work, his . . . . . This is your cue to run. Trust God to do better.

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raheemat. Abagun March 4, 2015 - 11:15 pm

My lil advise,since he has said it himself dat d back. Seat is ur plc,dat means u re not dat important,so grab ur brain and. Use it wise,I once had an experience. Like dat,but not my hubby dat said it, but his friend,we ve a party,and I was waiting in d car,my hubby went 2 get dem from inside cos we re d one picking dem up,he just come and said”madam pls go 2 d back”& my response was “can u carry me?since den he neva said somtin lik dat to me

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Emma March 5, 2015 - 5:07 am

The issue depends on how u see it. My girl friend who is now my wife has always ask me where she should sit. I am a guy with lots of friends and I have heard comments on that. Some guys thinks is direspectful to sit behind a lady. But left for me,is my car and who ever sits in front first occupies d front seat. Is not an issue to debate on. I like my wife seating in front probably cox we always have lots to talk about and I like looking at her fyn eyes.
From Elo Emmanuel.

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Adetoro March 5, 2015 - 6:11 am

My dear, he has started showing you what he believes. It might even be worse after marriage. Well…his love may be real, I don’t know. There are some men that claim to love their babes but stupid, dirty cultures have eaten them up to half that all they do is enforce them. OR maybe he’s so into his friend but nevertheless, if he’s going to make you his wife, he should learn how to put you ahead of any friend before taking you to the altar.

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Name* March 5, 2015 - 7:39 am

Na u o. Dat means he does not respect u. N if he can do dis nau he will do worse wen u marry him.

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bimbola March 5, 2015 - 9:35 am

Honestly,even without been told I always prefer the back seat when my man has a company. It is actually an act of respect..my man does not like it but I think I owe it to his friends. Sister,if he forces u to do it in the presence of his friends…he does not respect you ni oh…..

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Chioma March 5, 2015 - 1:29 pm

Girl, u truly know that the front sit is urs. But anytime u see that ur guy has company of his friends, accord them that respect and sit in the back, ok? Or u can ask them(him) if they(he) would want to sit in the front? To ur surprise, some will ask u not to worry that they are ok at the back seat. It seems u just made it a right to always have the front and some of them had complained to ur guy abt it and that was why he made such a decision. Mind u, u are not yet his wife and any other girl can take that position. Until u become his wife, keep calm. As a wife no one can take that from u unless u decide to allow someone to be there.

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Chioma March 5, 2015 - 1:36 pm

Correction pls: Girl, u truly know that the front seat is urs.

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Oluwatosin March 5, 2015 - 3:24 pm

its no big deal, wait till when you become his wife before you start complaining. always seat at the owners corner even if his friends are not in the car with you or no one is occupying the front seat

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Joseph April 17, 2015 - 9:02 am

He that hath ear, let him hear. He’s used to his homies been in front, this is because of ur absent. But now that u r on board, pls homies shud switch places. Is not about the position of the seat in the car. It’s the position of you in his life. So whether car, house, work etc. you should always come first and always be in front.

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Tbliss July 25, 2015 - 4:37 am

I found myself in a similar position and I realised that sometimes it’s about the friends in question. I went to visit my man and we went out with his cousin, I opted for the back seat however his cousin insisted I sat in front which I eventually did. Months after we went out with his friends and I went for the front seat and he asked me to sit behind and I felt bad inside because normally I would go to the back. But one thing that amazes me is that if we go anywhere and his friends join in, he would ask me to sit in front and his friends behind. Normally I would go to th back, but now his friends would ask me to sit in front or if it’s okay for them to sit in front. When they eventually sit, they would show appreciation and apologise.
I feel if you guys are in it for real, just keep your head up and act gracefully

Hope this helps a bit

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Tbliss July 25, 2015 - 4:58 am

I found myself in a similar position and I realised that sometimes it’s about the friends in question. I went to visit my man and we went out with his cousin, I opted for the back seat however his cousin insisted I sat in front which I eventually did. Months after we went out with his friends and I went for the front seat and he asked me to sit behind and I felt bad inside because normally I would go to the back. But one thing that amazes me is that if we go anywhere and his friends join in, he would ask me to sit in front and his friends behind. Normally I would go to th back, but now his friends would ask me to sit in front or if it’s okay for them to sit in front. When they eventually sit, they would show appreciation and apologise.
I feel if you guys are in it for real, just keep your head up and act gracefully
Hope this helps a bit

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Tbliss July 25, 2015 - 5:00 am

Found myself in a similar position and I realised that sometimes it’s about the friends in question. I went to visit my man and we went out with his cousin, I opted for the back seat however his cousin insisted I sat in front which I eventually did. Months after we went out with his friends and I went for the front seat and he asked me to sit behind and I felt bad inside because normally I would go to the back. But one thing that amazes me is that if we go anywhere and his friends join in, he would ask me to sit in front and his friends behind. Normally I would go to th back, but now his friends would ask me to sit in front or if it’s okay for them to sit in front. When they eventually sit, they would show appreciation and apologise.
I feel if you guys are in it for real, just keep your head up and act gracefully
Hope this helps a bit

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