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Touching & Inspiration Story: Marriage

by Lola Onabowale

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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office… jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce –At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband…

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

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18 comments

Name* December 10, 2013 - 8:53 am

What a sympathetic story, how I wish every one of us will learn from this story.

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ib December 10, 2013 - 9:16 am

Hmmmmm!!!!! Jesus! Have mercy on us all and help us! Amen!

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ken December 10, 2013 - 9:28 am

Really touching nita tnkz 4 d link <3

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Imanika December 10, 2013 - 9:51 am

hmmm, nice story, but na for where this kind thing happened?

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ajimi December 11, 2013 - 6:54 am

Na wa for Men o

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Ella December 11, 2013 - 7:05 am

What a story, this is to let us know how communication help us in building and understanding ourselves in relationship and how to work with how faults to add values to our home n relationship.

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Franklin December 11, 2013 - 7:16 am

A very touching $ inspiration story which can develop ones senses. More of such should be encouraged amidst us

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princex odianose December 11, 2013 - 7:26 am

I could remember vividly well.Ini Edo Nse Ikpe and yul edochie acted in that movie..but I cannot remember the name of the movie now..it’s been long I watched it..In the movie Ini Edo was always busy didn’t have time for her spouse yul Edochie..each yul ask for sex she will always say she had a heltic. Day @ the office..and if he says they should go out she will say she has an uncopleted project to finish..so one she made a new friend @ the salon where she usually go to make her hair and then invited her to their house not knowing that the girl which is Nse Ikpe was her huband’s EX..immediatel yul saw her they were both suprised to see each other again..and the rest was history…so that was a movie.

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voti December 11, 2013 - 10:05 am

So touching! God will help us to value everything around us, most especially our love ones.

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lolo December 11, 2013 - 10:19 am

Na waoooooo

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ATANDA KAYODE SAMUEL December 12, 2013 - 8:04 am

Good.Refreshened me,if ever engaged gain.

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joan January 3, 2014 - 4:41 pm

whether it’s a story, tales, in fact, whatever, the lesson is what matters.

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adeyemi bimpe March 11, 2014 - 9:20 pm

What a pathetic story we av to value what we av we will not die at d right time

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Afam Nicholas March 12, 2015 - 10:46 am

Hmmm, this is really touching bet y could death love visiting the one that needs life most. Here is my advice, its bette to improve on what has made us than abandoning it it kills.

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kween April 15, 2015 - 7:18 pm

Hmmmmmmm. Nawaoooooooo. i reject such in jesus name. Will d spirit of that woman 4giv him. Had it been she was alive. He would hav loved her more than anything in d world. Men and women communication matters O˚°ºooh. Dont jeopadise ur marriage 4 outside fun. Even if u woman or man dosen’t attract u. Dont let go. Help them be how u want them. And intimacy matter. Its well

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chika pascaline November 23, 2015 - 8:44 am

So touching. I really love dat.

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myvaline December 4, 2015 - 2:08 am

So amazing this story really have me thinking

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terry December 17, 2015 - 6:52 am

Oh my God this is a lesson to all the men around the world we should be contented with whatever we have.

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