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What Should I Do? I am About To Get Married But My Fiancé Has Come Up With Some Unbelievable Rules

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Good evening, please help me to post this as soon as possible. I’m a young lady of 27 that is about to marry. My introduction is this week Saturday but the problem I’m having now is that my husband-to-be is a minister (assistant pastor to be precise) in Mountain of Fire. When he came to propose to me, I told him that it couldn’t work due to standard of his church (no make up, Jewelries, attachment & so on) because I’m attending another denomination that make-up and using earrings are allowed but he said that I shouldn’t worry that nothing can stop him from loving me. He pleaded with me that after we get married, I won’t be using them to church due to his position but I’m free to use them outside the church which I agreed but the problem now is that he called me just yesterday that I should stop using everything from now on that he can’t take them anymore to the extent that he said I should not attach anything to my hair again (plaiting and weaving are only allowed).

Please, your advice is urgently needed.

Thanks in advance

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saythe truth October 8, 2014 - 5:37 pm

I will highly suggest you hold on your introduction and wedding. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You need to be sincere with your self, can you cope with this rules? how will it affect your personality? If he can take a you turn on this matter ( as simple as it is) he can take a you turn on anything. He has already made know is position in the church, in order words look for things that are rules within the church and ask yourself- can i cope with their rules? Don’t be shy about what people will say regarding your situation. I would rather let them say now than later. Good luck with your decision. Personally, I will walk away from the relationship

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deeC October 8, 2014 - 5:39 pm

Wow. You really are in quite a bind. Starting off, it is rather better that ur relationship has just berthed at the harbour of introduction. The decision you make here will determine how you will navigate the remaining waters. Secondly, you should have been wary when he said u could use those “things” outside the church but not within the church, that I think is hypocrisy. I would advise that you search your heart thoroughly if that is his stand, would you be willing to forsake all the said “things” for ur future with him? Afterall “they” might be regarded as vain or would you rather stick it out with him? Remember, ultimately the decision is yours to make. The Lord guide you as you do.

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providence October 8, 2014 - 5:46 pm

I believe d two of u still need to talk to each and determine what u want,if possibly the introduction can till d both of u hav com to a compromise abt dis issue. You knw u are getting married to an assistant pastor a religious leader dat people look up,so ur and his raputation is on play here. JSt b sure of wat u want and do it tanks

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Obby October 8, 2014 - 5:52 pm

I can see there was no truth from d beginning of dis relationship from d husband to be and you the wife how do you think that a minister in MFM will allow make up nd attachment while he preaches against. Battle you didn’t fight from beginning wil destroy you at end. Becareful nd think wise.

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aderonke October 8, 2014 - 6:00 pm

Its actually a two way thing,if u fnk u cn cope,go ahead wf d introduction.bh if u fnk u can’t cope,my dear stp d preparation immediately.cos evidences has shown dt d man wl neva allow u to use jewelries,he doesn’t lyk u for who u r.dr is no point in goin on wf d introduction.u ppl wl be avin issues cos u r 2 different ppl

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nikeh October 8, 2014 - 6:03 pm

Its not too late to call it quits. He should accept you for who yu are. If yu wanted to change,you’ll do that on your own,not on his terms. He’s making you into something you are not. Try talking to him cus MFM wouldn’t allow that,moreover he’s an assistant pastor,so a lot of eyes will be on you both. Should he refuse,please my dear,take a walk before it ends up in a miserable and unhappy marriage.

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queenmax October 8, 2014 - 6:20 pm

My dear, this’ very complicated, if he had told u earlier, it will save u some embarrassment cos definitely you’ld choose whether to go on with it or not, buh now that ur parents n some relatives already know abt the introduction, all you need is prayers to make things work,everything else is long story.

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hyrene October 8, 2014 - 6:21 pm

My dear,my for u is to really search ur heart if he is d man u want to spend d rest of life with,if u know u can’t cope without makeup and earrings,its beta u settle it now before marriage.

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Kemistry October 8, 2014 - 6:21 pm

Dear, its better you sit him down and talk things through. The way I see it, you hv nt known each other long enough, people marry frm diff church everytime but mostly different faithview is dangerous for your sanity. Thank God its introduction not wedding, so you can still resolve to opt-out if you feel you can’t live with this man. Difference in doctrine has thin line wth fanatism. Had a similar talk with a friend yesterday, d Lord gave me Romans 8 and 12 as a shield, hope it works for you. Good luck.

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Francis October 8, 2014 - 6:35 pm

This is funny but very serious,Dear sister, theplain truth is that your said to be hubby cant and will never compromise his believe,Naturally MFM doesnt permit the make up and all that,and you as a lady natural cant do wothout those things,so if you are ready to do without those things fine, go ahead with the marriage plans but if you are not simply Bow out,-Sister you have a very big role to play here because your hubby to be wont compimise his position in the church for you, so make your decision now, its all up to me,i wish you all the best

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star October 8, 2014 - 6:42 pm

I passed through this b4 i got married…buh am nt lucky dt my husband keeps his words…he worships with deeper life…i will suggest you calm down in your spirit and know if you can maintain the rules if yes(woww perfect)but if no,honey you are nt yet joined in the church…you are lucky he’s doing it now…you cant tell if he has found one of his church sisters nw n he’s lookin 4a way to fraustrate you…its better broken now than after wedding…God’s grace

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bee October 8, 2014 - 6:56 pm

My husband don’t allow me to wear makeup or use long attachments on my head. I can’t wear skinny

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lucy October 8, 2014 - 6:59 pm

Hmmm tight corner dearie am so sorry but are u sure you love him or u want 2 marry him because you have 2 b married? Think well if he accepted b4 y change noW? Is he a man dat can kip his words? Becareful but if u tynk u can do dat it will be good at least Asst pastor’s wife should be worthy of emulation I don’t know if the bible preached against it oh but if actually he backs it up biblically n ur convinced y not all dat matters is 4 1 2 make HEAVEN at last good luck.

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Chinny October 8, 2014 - 7:21 pm

Please you both should put the wedding on hold and deal with this first. sometimes people think things like this doesnt matter, but it goes a long way into the marriage. So I will advice you to talk to him regarding your stand in depth. I grew up in a church like MFM and promised myself never to marry into a church with such rules. Also pray to God for confirmation before accepting any man for marriage.

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happiness October 8, 2014 - 7:24 pm

My dear with deep breath I must tell u take a deep breath over this I can say that this man lure u into believing he can adapt wit that life u want just to get you 1st listen if u can’t adapt 2 d situation I wil advice u threaten him by saying No… U wnt push wit d marriage again n see his reactions over it if he pesist on his own dat means u re geting married 2 an autocraty man u v seen it now so if u still like it u can push bt no u v no right again

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omo007 October 8, 2014 - 7:27 pm

My dear,if u cud do without all dese tins u wont av askd for a second opinion… for a second try and put ur past aside and look at the future, take a moment alone wit urself and honestly ask urself ds question…can i honestly live witout wearing makeup or fixing attachments….if u cant, ask God to give u d strength to disolve d relationship, it will definitly be hard bcos uv invested not only ur time into the relationship but ur heart…Forget about wat people will say….and jst opt out…u will feel relived in the long run.

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Moji October 8, 2014 - 7:28 pm

One of the things to consider before saying ‘I DO’ is: Faith/Believe. If you have different beliefs or ideologies, how do you think things can work out? The whole home will be full of arguments – abuses – shouting – fights – separation and at the long run it turns divorce due to irreconcilable differences that could be avoided well before marriage. Depending on how you plan to live your life: if to you, divorce isn’t a big deal, you can move on but if it is, you have to think, talk, seek advice from Godly people in good relationships mostly elders and truthfully pray. Don’t blindfold your eyes with these so-called little things cause when you do, marriage will open it to loneliness, ridicle and disgrace. You are not the oldest single afterall, l married at age 32 and a female l know married last month at age 46 for the first time in her life. Sister, better marry late than suffer divorce, he might do worse in the marriage. Good luck.

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Basma October 8, 2014 - 7:34 pm

You are a female before anything. Dressing up and looking beautiful is one of our signatures. Are you welling to give up all of this just for marriage. Do you think you will be able to attend your girlfriend wedding or any party without any accessories. This man will make your life harder, not at all easier. If he can ask you to let go of such things, he will ask you to let go of other things too. You are young, life is still waiting for you.

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emem October 8, 2014 - 7:51 pm

I think u shuld ask God 4 his direction 4 ur union I think u re also beautiful without any attachment to ur hair or faceas a hold and perhaps u Knw he his a pastor of d Church and as d doctrine of d church u Dont attach anything dat is nt natural am nt saying it easy BT if u love him u shuld be able to let go of them

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BB October 8, 2014 - 7:59 pm

My dear, did he not see u wit all these before approaching u. He has such in mind before he only wanted you to fall in love wit him and talk u into marriage before saying d real truth. Sister, introduction is not wedding day, so think twice. Your family will understand. Don’t let anybody deceive u dat ur family will feel bad. Search ur heart ..

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Abi October 8, 2014 - 8:00 pm

How can two walk together unless they agree…

Woman of God, this man has already set down the “law” for you!….and I sense it will not end there…..it could get worse after commitment. Do you believe these regulations are what God wants for women? Can you live comfortably and joyfully, encouraging other women to do the same, till death do you part? Will YOU be happy? These are the questions you must ask yourself and I believe you already know the answers.
As a citizen of The Kingdom of God I can tell you this is nothing short of a new form of bondage. You may need to walk away from this one. God be with you my sister.

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funmi October 8, 2014 - 8:14 pm

My dear,
If u are not comfortable with d idea now, its a sign that there are going to be more rules for u. Pls tell him to hold on with d marriage plans. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

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Busola October 8, 2014 - 8:51 pm

Dis rules will keep coming in, sit urself down and ask if u can cope, talk to him abt it too. Pray and take ur decision. If u ask me, it’s better called off, it’s difficult though bt I see a lot coming in after u re married.

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Name* October 8, 2014 - 8:53 pm

A broken engagement is best dan a broken marrage my dear if u cant cope wit d new rules my dear dnt get into dat marrage cos ul always have problems

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Name* October 8, 2014 - 8:53 pm

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bee October 8, 2014 - 9:10 pm

Leave while you can.its ya decision

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PNE October 8, 2014 - 9:15 pm

My dear, there is no amount of prayer that will make this marriage work. the two of you have different opions abt the way of worship and service to God. pls donot try marring him, because u will never be happy. marriage is sometin u have to be happy with,especially when it is fresh. pls and pls,walk away. i know of somebody that got married to an MFM man,and now they are apart, the lady had to go to the village to give birth to her baby, cos she was pregnant before all kinds of rules start coming in. Less than a year, the marriage was over. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Pls my sister walk away and explain to your parents. God will grant u a man that loves u for who you are,a true friend who is proud to call u his wife. besides,as an assistant pastor of the church,u cannot do otherwise. Lets tell ourselves the truth.

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rita October 8, 2014 - 9:16 pm

Sweetie. I understand your plea, like my mom always say, don’t start what you can’t finish. Marriage is a life time institution and you want to make sure you know what your getting into. I give him credits for letting you know this before the wedding. Someone will love you and accept you for who you are ok, it’s understanable why he said that but he should have gotten himself a MFM chic who he wouldn’t have to change. Goodluck and God bless.

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Just ME October 8, 2014 - 10:12 pm

… Similar case happened to me this year, a brother prosposed to me only for him to give me this same commandments of no makeup, no attachnent, etc. ( As for make up I only use eyeshadows once in a while and the braide and attachment thing I don’t do it more than twice in a year, 10 at of 12 months I am a naturalistic) The worst was that if said I must undergo a deliverance section with one so called evengelist/prophet/whatever before he can marry me cos he don’t want me to bring badluck to the marriage. My people I borrow legs run for my dear life. This is the same person that told me God was the one that directed him to meet me (Will God give bad thing to His child) In the church there are single. ladies who are 100% naturalistic he came to me who is 80%. Who is deceiving who? Why smell what you can’t chew? As for me if I am not doing it (staying out of arttificials) I should’nt do it for any man, that ‘ll be self deceit. Do u know he still disturb me, but me no gree give am face again. “Tell you deliverance. Prophet to give u a wife”. End of. Story!

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Mama October 8, 2014 - 10:30 pm

Forget the guy and move on…..what you can’t tolerate before marriage don’t expect him to change…he us nit faithful and trust worthy……you will not be denied heaven cos of weave on or jewelry if u do not make them idols in your life, so nothing wrong in using them….since he doesn’t want and u do not see any reason to stop you will begin to resent him later in the marriage which will bring strife between you……I don’t care how old u are you can find love again so font let any body pressure u with all that typical naija talk…..

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Fay October 8, 2014 - 11:37 pm

My mother told me that we teach people how to treat us. In other words, what you permit will continue. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. If you are uncomfortable now, it will only continue. You two need to have a heart to heart conversation. Tell him how you feel. When he gives his response, take note. You know your man – you will be able to tell if he truly accepts your viewpoint and is willing to accept you for who you are or if he is simply appeasing you just to get you to go through with the wedding. If you start out to please people you will do it for the life of your marriage. Don’t worry about what people around you think – this is a life decision. Let it truly be YOUR decisio. Be prayerful always.

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obobo October 8, 2014 - 11:51 pm

Our society today has attached too much importance to make-up, expensive hairdo and jewelry ,which r not essential for physical and spiritual growth. However,there is a bigger issue here. I don’t think you understood the gravity of the role you were about to take upon yourslf. Assistant pastor’s wife n possibly senior pastor’s wife in d near future is no small task. Esp for a church like MFM. U will hv to dress a certain way, n behave in a certain manner. N these cannot b seperated from d church’s doctrines. I think your man has come to realise d truth of d matter which is probably why he is bringing up these rules now. He probably thinks you wld hv understood by now dt u wld eventually hv to change your current lifestyle to one befitting a pastor’s wife. There MAY not be an underlying factor of deception to his actions. Pls I think you shld think abt d totality of your role as a pastor wife. U might b able to cope without jewelry n make-up but not with d other aspects of your duties. If you decide to go ahead with the marriage or not, it shld be because u hv prayed,discussed with your man and prayed some more. If u feel its too late to call off ur introduction, go ahead with it. Not everyone dt does an introduction eventually gets married. If u r worried abt d shame associated with calling off a relationship so close to d wedding, ask God to help u bear d shame. But its better to bear d shame now dn to become sad as a pastor’s wife. I wish you all d best dear. God be with you. I hope this message is of help to you.

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Agnes Mbanga October 9, 2014 - 1:15 am

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Agnes Mbanga October 9, 2014 - 1:23 am

My darling I very much understand you .what you can do is yo let that guy go though its not easy. We have a saying in my language that its better to yo amend the the crack that has occurred in a wall than building the whole wall so before you say I do consider what cost you will get after getting married. Look for people to pray with you. That burden is too big. May the grace of God be with you as you take a strong and sensitive issue. Let God lead you. And listen to your inner heart this is very important.

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Zorom October 9, 2014 - 4:22 am

First, you should be thankful this came up before you both tied the knot. Then, it’s up to you to decide whether or not to go ahead.
Conflicting principles is one of the strongest predisposing factors to a broken marriage and you don’t want to go through that.
If you think you can live like that, then do as he said but you don’t sound happy about it, in which case I advise you put things on hold.
Reassess you stand with this man. Consider also the character of spontaneous decision making which he displayed as well as his trying to impose it on you. These are red lights too. Don’t do something you’ll regret; these are not good grounds to build marriage upon. God’s grace.

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Zorom October 9, 2014 - 4:33 am

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Talk with him. You ought to have expected it, seeing his active place in his church. Check yourself well and know if these things he doesn’t want you using are worth discarding your marriage over… but don’t do anything under duress. It was wrong in the first place to decide to marry in hypocrisy. Yes, that’s what I call marrying into a church whose doctrines you do not agree with.
It might be wrong to assume he’s imposing it on you. Maybe he’s asking you to see reasons with him, all depends on the tone of his request. Whichever it be, think carefully and make a decision. Better single that in a turbulent marriage. Talk it over and call a truce. And pray about it, most importantly. No advise or decision beats the will of God, and that should be your desire.

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gold October 9, 2014 - 5:06 am

Sisterrrrrr,sisterrrrr how many times did I call u..u will hate urself if u try marrying him.d first depise will come from d church members that’s sees u outside d church with d make ups nd earings,u will b unhappy,kus u like wearing those stuff.I will advise u hold on first o,wait d dis brother nt see an MFM sister,or was it nt d way u were looking good that drew him to u.use ur head b4 u end up cage till death do u path lolzzzzzz

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solly October 9, 2014 - 8:35 am

DEAR This guy admired you the first time he met you and u had this things on so he should love you for you without putting rules first.he also tricked you by telling you only a few days to de introduction dat you wont use those things wether in or out.i know what you are thinking now is what will people say if you quit,just put it in prayers and God will show you the right way.

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tayo October 9, 2014 - 9:13 am

plz search urslf,if u can cope with ds rules,but h shud hav tak hs stand rite frm d bginin of d relationship bcus evn Whn u settle down with him,h wil stil comeup wit different rules but I think u can stil do away wit all ds stuff,u ar nt born with it instead of quiting,well God will help u if u cn go to God in prayer n tabl evrytin b4 God,u wil jus dscova u loose taste for d jeweries n attachment.

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Ibunkun October 9, 2014 - 9:33 am

All u need is prayer for divine guidance…Happiness matters a lot in marriage cos u can only give happiness to your man when you have it. Will you be a happy and fulfilled wife with all these rules? Ask urslf this question and be true to yourself with your response. It is well with you,all the best.

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tosin October 9, 2014 - 10:59 am

it all depend on you my sister, if you truly love the man and you don’t see anything bad in it u can do it but if can’t cope u run for your dear life, a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage and its even a life time thing. both of you sit each other down and discuss about it and you as a lady think of how it will affect your life and future weather positive or negative, whether in the society, your work and so on and also think of it that will it bring happiness to you at the same time for man not to keep to his words, an assistant pastor for that matter definitely in the marriage he will not keep to words and at the same time there are reason for any action to be taken…………….so my sister think before you take any step……………..Goodluck to you

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irene October 9, 2014 - 5:12 pm

Comment For u agreeing to marry him means u r convinced he is ur husband,nd u love everytin abt him. luv implies making sacrifices, if u cannot sacrifice all these for d luv u hv for him ,dat means u r mking makeups,weavons,etc..a god in ur life. He may be d change u need in ur life. Him telling u u cld use those tins outside church was a mistake on his part and thank God he realise ontime,by telling u d truth. my dear dnt allow satan to confuse u by mking u lay emphasis on flimsy issues. Except u r not fully convinced that u love him nd dat he is d right man for u

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Grace October 9, 2014 - 6:11 pm

Thank God this issue is coming up now. This could be another way God is using to tell You that Man is not for You,despite the fact he’s an assistant Pastor.
My concern is not just that he told You to stop putting on earrings,hair extensions or jewelry but it has revealed a strong character flaw in him which a man ready for marriage,especially a believer shouldn’t display. He saw You on those before he approached You & pretended that it didn’t matter. Now,You guys are up to this level & he wants You to choose between those stuff & marrying him. That shows deception. Again,he’s trying to make You into what he wants,which is not the work of any human being. Thirdly,You should discern from this action that he’s dictatorial & autocratic;which means in that marriage, it must always be all about him,regardless of your opinions, feelings or even welfare. Such man will treat You as a child instead of a Wife. I’m not a Prophetess of doom,but this is a tip of the iceberg in what Your life with him is going to look like.
Please,prayerfully & politely put the marriage plans on hold,not because You can’t do without make up but because this is pointing to an issue that is more serious. There are many believing guys who You can make a good home with that their denomination allows make up & the rest. God’s grace as You work through this.

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Bulus Julius October 9, 2014 - 8:10 pm

Well, it is so unfortunate that even people that are highly place in the society and well respected can con decent to acting in a manner that put their integrity in jeopardy. Well, i suggest you should ask him why the sudden change in decision. Sometimes some people don’t know when to say yes and no, no matter their position in life. Is he under pressure by friends, colleagues, family etc over your dressing manner, find out first before you take a decision if and only if you truly loves him. You also, is your make up too excessive? if yes den do something about it. But dnt just give up because you feel your interest is at stake. Good luck Ms.

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Jerry T. October 9, 2014 - 10:18 pm

If you people actually got approval from God right from onset. I advise you are free to prayerfully choose between the man and those things (Make-up, jewelries, attachment etc).

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Jerry T. October 9, 2014 - 10:19 pm

If you people actually got approval from God right from onset, then, I advise you prayerfully choose between the man and those things (Make-up, jewelries, attachment etc).

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Francis October 10, 2014 - 12:27 pm

My advise to you is that; do not allow someone to rule of your life, it is better to agree before the journey start. I believe courtship is their to know each other so than when time come for you to be one body there should be peace and happy marriage.

Please in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord dont put your self in prison. If you are a born again believer let yourself have a good time with God and He shall surely reveal to you.

Where was he at the start of your relationship to tell all of those things, telling you in last minute?

Watch out and be on your guard, may be he is doing that so that you should leave him. There are some men if they don’t want to marry you, the bring a lot of things just to frustrate you and give up. so don’t hung yourself to the world of sorrow, worrying, crying and regretting.

If seems like the man is still stubborn don’t waste your time just put on hold until it is solve.

May God who made you be with you in your situation and may you see God delivering from the hand of the enemy. Amen

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Ben October 10, 2014 - 4:56 pm

First of all, he knew this from the onset.

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Bisi October 10, 2014 - 5:52 pm

Well if I were you, it depends on if you love him and you are willing to spend the rest of your life with him. If not I think its better for you to stop the introduction now before its too late. You wouldn’t want to be trapped for the rest of your life. So my dear ask yourself, do I love him enough to sacrifice all this.

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Omole Toyin July 20, 2015 - 9:52 pm

Make your choice now. your makeup, hairsytel,mood of dressing etc or marry him,his rules and church doctrine,than get ready to live with for the rest of your life . A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. The choice is yours….

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Pat July 21, 2015 - 2:30 am

It’s a pity I am seeing this article late. By now I am sure the lady has made her decision and seeing the results already. (Perhaps editor can give update)

I think the issue here is not about the church (show me a church without a doctrine). Even God had to talk to Peter about in in the New Testament (the story of unclean animals). It is about false representation on the part of the guy. This guy was obviously attracted to you and you were wearing artificial hair, nails., makeup etc. So now that he wants to marry, the game has changed? Nooooooo. Yes he may say he wants to uphold church standards but unless he started training a few months before introduction, his argument does not hold water. In general, African men do not really say the truth about themselves it’s only after marriage that you discover that oh the car belongs to the cousin or that he has just one suit! So girl consider yourself lucky to know about this before marriage. But he is a manipulator, who made sure you fell in love with him before coming up with this list of dos and don’ts. Please dear,remember in future that before a guy is a pastor, he is a man first who can have undesirable character flaws…

Ladies please get this into your heads – ‘TRUE LOVE HAS NO CONDITIONS’. If you see someone trying to change you then it means that you are not good enough for them!!!! So even if you change yourself to meet requirements how will you know if more requests wiĺl not come?

I am a staunch Christian but I have learnt with time not to compromise my identity. It’s a pity that some churches in Africa they change their followérs to such an extent of controlling what they eat! In these churches, the ladies end up being pious and ‘unattractive’ so much that their male counterparts will not want them and vice versa. In fact I have observed that it is not a Nigerian problem only but also extends to other African countries eg. Zim where I come from.

My advice to you is enquire from the Lord as to the right spouse. Also do not forget to value yourself,you are worthy and precious my sister and any man who thinks otherwise is free to take the highway and leave you in peace. You will find someone who will truly appreciate you warts and all.

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hope July 21, 2015 - 11:24 am

Pls take a walk frm that relationship cos u won’t be happy in it. I had a similar situation sometimes ago, met dis mfm guy, he saw me wit all d makeups and weavon yet he came to me and proposed. Then he said I must go for deliverance then he started suggesting that I shd make my hair wit out attaching extensions yet he wants to kiss and romance whenever he sees me. My dear I opted out of d affair. Today am married to my dream man and am very happy in my marriage so Pls dear let him go and call off the introduction.

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Olubunmi July 21, 2015 - 4:32 pm

Ɣ☺Ʊ я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ wonderfully, fearfully Α̲̅πϑ beautifully made! With or without make up Α̲̅πϑ attachment. So pray to U̶̲̥̅̊я maker for direction Α̲̅πϑ HE will answer Ɣ☺Ʊ dear.

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Olubunmi July 21, 2015 - 4:37 pm

Ɣ☺Ʊ я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ wonderfully, fearfully Α̲̅πϑ beautifully made! With or without make up or attachment. So pray to U̶̲̥̅̊я maker for direction Α̲̅πϑ HE will answer Ɣ☺Ʊ dear.

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Life July 22, 2015 - 8:56 am

The marriage will not work.The man does not love you for who you are but for what he could achieve from you.Not necessarily physical achievements but maybe other qualities from you such as obedience to ‘mugu’level etc.If u accept his ‘commandments’now,whether u are a Christian,born-again,or not you would have to obey him all the DAYS of ur life which will be dangerous for you n your children to be. RUN AWAY FROM HIM O.

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Diane whyte July 23, 2015 - 11:08 pm

My dear sister when he “fell” for u, what did he see? Dint he see u wit all dat? If a man cant love u 4 who u are my dear pls flee 4ur lyf…

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Busayo Fiade January 31, 2016 - 8:57 am

Cant help but laugh at the irony of life and faith. I should advise that you have to face the reality if the situation. The Bible says that can two walk together lest they be agreed?

You have to decide on your priorities. The man or your lifestyle. If there’s no middle ground, you have to be honest with yourself.

Unfortunately, I have the reverse problem.

I think you should evaluate the situation and decide if its a life you can live.

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